JewBu Quest: From Abuse to Happiness

JewBu: a Jew who practices forms of Buddhist meditation & spirituality. This blog documents my quest to 1) heal from sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse, 2) come to terms with losing Mom and Grandma to Alzheimers, 3) find balance, explore the spiritual, stay present. Bascially, I've experienced some pretty crappy shit in my life and want to find a way to move past it and find happiness.

Tuesday, May 23, 2006

What Should I Say?

I just came from the vet to get my dog vacinated for next year and get her a health certificate to fly. They asked me why we're traveling, and I tried to make it sound nicer/less bad: "Oh my mom's not well." OR "My parents need some dog therapy." Should I just be coming out and saying "my mom is dying of Alzheimer's"? It seems so horrific and in your face to just put out there in friendly conversation. It is hard to have to confront it and confront it again. But, I hate when people say "well, I hope your mom feels/gets better." My mom isn't going to get better. And she's feels fine; she's just losing her brain. Anyway, off to work. With the Wellbrutin, I can actually get stuff done.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

This reminds me of a woman at my job who's son died in a tragic motorcycle accident last yr. He was in a coma for a while, and there was really no hope he'd recover (braindead). The staff here sent flowers/cards, paid visits to the hospital, etc. But, the only way she was really able to come back to work (maybe after a 8 mo. leave), was to instruct us not ask her every day if she was feeling better or how her son Matt was doing at work. IN conclusion, I think it's important you let people into your life who you WANT to know about your mother, but it's not important to tell everybody. Good friends/considerate family would know what the real deal is and would give you more of the support/commentary that you need. Why have unecessary stress/irritation from strangers?

Thursday, May 25, 2006 7:11:00 AM  
Blogger Karma said...

I do need to just tell people what I need. I think I tend to help them by telling them to interact with me in the way that's easiest for them, but I need to get over that. I need to just let people know that I don't want to be asked all t he time.

The hard thing about letting people know is that my department is super gossipy. I've been told that it was discussed in a departmental meeting that my neighbor was murdered. But, the real details, I can just share with who I'm comfortable with, and not talk about it with people that I'm not as close with. Good advice; thanks!

Thursday, May 25, 2006 10:29:00 AM  

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