Whirlwind
So, I only have a couple of hours before I need to have my dad take me to my mom's, say goodbye, fly back home, pull together work stuff, blah blah, fly across country for a few days for work, go back home, write an encyclopedia entry, make room in my place for A to move in, fly back to KC. I went to therapy this morning and found myself just wanting to vent instead of actually wanting to think through anything. I wonder if it is really a good idea to be staying with my dad all summer so that I can take care of my mom. Maybe I should stay at my grandmother's empty place, even though that's creepy and I'd probably feel guilty about going to visit her if I did that, and then it seems ridiculous to spend thousands of dollars on a hotel, but maybe if I consider how much therapy I might be saving myself!....actually I think in some ways it is good for both my dad and I that I'm here, but it is also really draining on me and I don't like having him get into my head....being around him so much, it lets his way of seeing the world enter my mind.....grrr, okay, must pack!
4 Comments:
Karma,
Just wanted to tell you that i know how you must feel...i would give absulutely anything to be able to take care of my Mom full time. But I have different circumstances that hold me back; 2 young boys, a job that i cant do from home (cant afford to take a family medical leave). My heart breaks daily, I feel that im loosing my best friend. Although im gaining alot of good qualities that i never thought i had in me. This difficulity only makes me a stronger person. Take Care and Keep Journaling.
Peg
Wishing you a very safe flight, K. Things are in whirlwind mode right now, but when you do not hear the clock literally clicking -- perhaps staying with your dad will be bearable, and you can take the time you need for yourself. Perhaps your grandmother's can be a fallback, a place to take it easy when you need private time during the day? Just a crazy idea.
You are a strong woman and I know you will get through this. Hope your trip goes well!
S.
Thanks Peg. I want to be there all the time with her, even though I can't and even if I could, it wouldn't be healthy. I feel very blessed to be able to have my job and the time with mom and everything. Anyway, I appreciate your support. Keep reading and commenting!
Thanks Sanchi. I need to talk to my aunt to get access to my Grandmother's, which might be a good thing to do, but I don't get along with her and I think that Grandma's place doesn't get utilities since she was in Florida for the Winter before going into the nursing home. I think it'll all be about boundaries with my dad. Anyway, I got home safe. Thanks for thinking about me.
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