JewBu Quest: From Abuse to Happiness

JewBu: a Jew who practices forms of Buddhist meditation & spirituality. This blog documents my quest to 1) heal from sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse, 2) come to terms with losing Mom and Grandma to Alzheimers, 3) find balance, explore the spiritual, stay present. Bascially, I've experienced some pretty crappy shit in my life and want to find a way to move past it and find happiness.

Thursday, November 01, 2007

From Preventative Care to Comfort Care


Well, Dad has decided that we're only going to give Mom comfort care and not preventative/ treatment care. If she has another heart attack or seizure (they're not sure what this last thing was), then she'll stay at her assisted living. She won't get any of the medications recommended by the doctors.

I spoke withe the nurse at Mom's facility who agrees with all of this. Mom's so far along that we shouldn't do anything to prolong her life.

I did convince Dad to start giving Mom the herb passionflower, which should make her more relaxed and help prevent seizures. That's a comfort issue, I convinced him. She won't get garlic to thin her blood and prevent heart attacks. That's a prolonging life issue, he thinks.

I can't really complain because I was the one who pushed for us to talk about this. I just feel majorly out of the decision-making processes that went on this week. I feel far away and distant. But, I'm also starting to get productive again and grateful to not be in the middle of the mishugas. Its lonely being so far away and without people to talk about it here. But, I'm also able to live somewhat of a more normal life...to actually be able to have a life.

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3 Comments:

Blogger I Survive! said...

Hang on in there, Karma.

Monday, November 05, 2007 8:09:00 AM  
Blogger April_optimist said...

Big (((((((hugs))))))).

Wednesday, November 07, 2007 2:24:00 PM  
Blogger Catherine M. said...

I can relate to everything you've posted about. My dad is in his 80's and is suffering the effects of senile dementia. I'm originally from NY but moved to LA so I could have a life. However, I find myself going back and forth to tend to my dad. It's rough. I know how emotionally draining it can be. You're lucky to have your dad...You'll get through this...we both will..

Namaste...

Tuesday, November 13, 2007 7:31:00 PM  

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