Contradictions
So, I'm this big feminist, but I let this guy take me out to dinner. I even felt more likely to kiss him after he bought the dinner. When I date guys, I tend to get overly girly and passive. I went out for a lunch date with a woman, but I have totally different standards with her than with the guys I'm dating. I feel much more in control and more assertive. There are so many contradictions in dating.
I want to be there for Mom, but it seems like there's really little that I can do. I talk to Dad all the time, even though I big time disagree with how he's doing certain things and he'll disown me if I come out as bi. I need a vacation, but in all my free time, I go back to Kansas City.
posted by Karma @ 8:39 PM
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2 Comments:
Weird how social conditioning can affect us, isn't it? At least you're aware of what's happening and the choices you're making. That's a GOOD THING!
When I was younger, I gave up way too much of myself and my power to the guy I married because...somehow I thought that's what I was supposed to do.
Which was pretty ironic because when I was younger I was the most feminist woman I knew. And yet...I'd heard one too many messages about who I was supposed to be as a woman.
The things that constrain us the most are the assumptions we never stop to challenge. You're beginning to challenge yours. GOOD FOR YOU!
Yes, now I can start to challenge my assumptions. I think I just need to remember that change happens through baby steps, through intention on moving in a better direction.
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